In many instances, a lot of ladies start trying to validate themselves by dating and going out with guys who are much significantly older than they do. Many ladies will say “I can only date an age mate” or “at least few months older.” Better still, some will say “anytime a dispute arises between us, the guy suppresses me on the basis of age,” while some are ashamed, disappointed, frightened and shy. Personally, I see nothing bad or exceptional in dating a guy who is much older than you do. The only thing you have to do is to set a standard for yourself.
A guy who loves you would be the guy you need him to be if you have requirement standard and set the relationship work the way you want it to. A real guy is happy and eager to live by your standard, as long as he knows the set standard, and he’s convinced that abiding by them is in no way a herculean task for him and will help keep the lady he loves happy. The only thing you have to do is to establish the standard, resonate them clearly, and above all, make sure he sticks to them. And if he violates the rules, he steps out of the relationship.
Even nowadays, no more ‘seniority’ in relationship, no matter the age gap that exists between us, it should be kept in his pocket. Anytime there is a dispute, seniority mustn’t be used as insulting or abusive words to ladies. An essential part of a lady’s dignity is respect. More so, no guy out there wants to date a lady of his age, but younger than they. Not for any reason, but their belief is that ladies within their age bracket will not respect them, but if the guy is much older, his lady is bound to respect him.
Respect is reciprocal; respect your lady as she respects you too. Ladies, never exercise any fears again! Give chances to any guy who is older than you do and you simply apply your standards. Remember, there is always SOMEBODY for EVERYBODY.
ADESIYAN OLAYIWOLA OMOKEHINDE is a high school student. She resides in Ibadan and loves scribbling on relationship.